Modern motherhood is statistically impossible

(2 min read) One of my most viral posts was this time distribution of what mothers have to do in one day. This resonated with so many moms and it showcases a blatant discrepancy in our reality.

If you look at this time distribution you can quickly tell which tasks get chopped first- sleep, exercise, time to get organized, time for self-care... the things we need to do to function our best.

So we are expected to more than is reasonable, then to compensate we cut back on our own needs and then we feel guilty when things don't get done right. 

This cycle is cruel. 

This cycle harms not only mothers but their children, our children as well.

So what is the solution? Intention. You need to understand your true priorities and get organized about how to accomplish them in an intentional way.

I'll give an example of how I am doing this in my own life. In the trenches of pandemic motherhood and navigating life with a child with unique needs I found myself ignoring some of my most basic and integral needs: my physical health and my marriage. I do not blame myself or regret how things transpired because I know that my decisions were in the best interest of my family while living in an absurdly difficult time to be a new mom. 

At the beginning of this year I decided to take a look at my priorities and when I realized these 2 extremely foundational parts of my life were still on the back burner I had to decide how to reallocate my time. Ultimately, I decided to rearrange my schedule to work less so that I could prioritize time to work out, and time to spend intentionally with my husband (we've been doing weekly lunch dates and it is AWESOME!) The cost? I don't get to grow my business quite as quickly as I'd like but for my unique situation at this time, it made sense to protect myself and ultimately my kids.

Everyone has such a different situation so don't take my example as something to mirror, but rather take some time to consider (maybe even journal) what your TRUE priorities are. Rank them and then assess if your day to day life matches what your brain and heart want. If they do, great! Maybe you just need to tweak your schedule a bit. If they don't or you're not sure what your priorities are anymore (been there done that as an extremely educated new mom) then have an honest sit down with yourself to make these critical life decisions. For support check out my programs here.

Honor your importance and safeguard your mind. All our kids depend on it. See you in next Sunday's e-newsletter.

XO, Naomi

mom, founder, certified life + business coach

www.highachievingmomsclub.com