domestic maintenance = torture

(3 min read) One of my biggest triggers is having to function in a MESS. A messy kitchen, a messy living room, a messy car, a messy schedule… it throws me off and ultimately prevents me from being the best version of myself.

Even with systems in place and constant working on what I call “domestic maintenance duties” it feels like there is always more to do. Or even worse when something seems done I can't even enjoy the doneness because it quickly becomes undone #toomanydishes.

Its a silent form of torture that an outsider or even an insider in your home may not easily perceive or be able to identify. The non-stop reality that as moms we need to maintain the physical home and livelihood of multiple people- our children, ourselves, sometimes our partners or other family members- can become extremely burdensome and ultimately lead to heightened anxiety, and unnecessary mom guilt. 

There is no one size fits all as every home is different but I believe its important for you and your family to acknowledge that this never-ending list of domestic maintenance is a lot to handle. I challenge you to have an honest conversation with yourself and your family about all the domestic maintenance you are in charge of. Use this conversation to open a dialogue of where you can create better support systems or talk about hiring help.

What is expected of 1 mom today used to be done by tens of family + community members.

I want you to remember that the next time your dishes sit on the counter for 48 hours or your child shows up to school in the same clothes as the day before it is not a reflection of your capability or your value. Validate that there is too much being asked of us and be empowered by giving yourself grace.

Honor your importance and safeguard your mind. All our kids depend on it. See you in next Sunday's e-newsletter.

XO, Naomi

mom, founder, certified life + business coach

www.highachievingmomsclub.com

 Here is a general list of tasks moms deal with. Feel free to use as inspo as you make your list of domestic maintenance tasks and validate for yourself that what is expected of you and me is unrealistic and essentially impossible to do without completely burning ourselves out.